Mr and Mrs Mankayi’s Regal isiXhosa Traditional Wedding
How did you meet?
We met in 2011 seven years when Vuyani moved to Vaal due to work. One of his friends who were friends with my friend, invited my friend to a braai and we all went to the braai with our other friends. To be honest, that day I didn’t want to go to a braai as I was not in the mood, but my friend Fikile begged me to go.
We saw each other during that evening but we didn’t talk, however I caught Vuyani’s attention and he was thinking about me and how he was going to talk to me. A few weeks later he managed to get my contact details and we started talking and getting to know each other.
At first I was surprised as to how he got my numbers and why he wanted to talk to me because we didn’t even speak, but as we continued to speak daily I realized he was a caring guy who made me laugh most of the time.
Our first date was on the 6th of March 2012, when we actually discovered that we share the same birthday. I actually thought he was lying so I requested to see his I.D number in order to believe him. The date went well, we laughed and conversated the night away.
Vuyani was adamant that we should be official, but I told him there isn’t anything wrong with just talking and keeping it the way it was (I was actually playing hard to get for such a long time, 1 year to be exact and he still waited me) It was on the 14th December 2012 whereby we officially declared our love to each other.
When I look back I ask myself why did I took so long to give him an answer, but the delay came with positive fruits J and we have never looked back ever since”
Bride: Lonia Nyeleti
Groom: Vuyani Mankayi
Occupations: Human Resource Business Partner & Quality Control Manager
Wedding date: Traditional ceremony Part 1, which was the “Welcoming of the Groom” into the bride’s family.
Venue: Bride’s hometon in Vanderbilpark Vaal
Wedding date: Traditional ceremony Part 2, which was the “Welcoming of the Bride” into the groom’s family.
On this date we had our matrimony and reception. This is the day we got married.
Venue: Groom’s hometown in Welkom in the Free State.
How did you know he/she was the one?
Nyeleti: “It was the morning of New year’s Eve. We were at a beautiful location in Hartebees. We were in bed and he was looking at me and I stared at him too. That’s when I knew he was the one and told him I loved him (December 2013).
Vuyani: “I knew she was the one 3 months after dating when I introduced her to my family and loved her since.”
Wedding Style (Describe your wedding attire)
Shopping for the both of us was simple. We knew what we wanted, something simple when it came to everything.
Nyeleti: “My wedding attire for both occasions I wanted something tight, which would accentuate my curves. My dress for Part 1 was white, with Tsonga colours to represent my culture. My dress for the second traditional ceremony was Blue, with Xhosa designs and beads.”
Vuyani: “My attire was inspired by Mandla Mandela. I appreciate how he represents his culture especially when it comes to his gear.”
What was your vision for your wedding day?
For our Xhosa Traditional wedding we wanted something very simple yet elegant. We went for classic colours for our decor, we chose black, white and gold.
Did you incorporate any culture/traditions to your wedding?
“Yes we did. This was a traditional wedding, so on the 9 December 2017, all traditional processes where done in order to welcome me as uMakoti into the Xhosa Clan and I was also given a new name, Aluvuyelwe.
Aluvuyelwe means Happiness! My mother-in-law said I bring them happiness and joy as they welcome me into their family and she knows I will forever do that for this family.”
What is your best memory from your wedding?
Nyeleti: “Dancing In the streets of Welkom with my husband.
When my mother-in-law gave me my new name and what it meant.
The speech from my parents and I felt God’s presence on that day through the happiness around every person that was there.”
Vuyani: “Seeing how happy I have made my wonderful wife and my Mother’s tears of joy.”